• impact • I like pain. I am covered in tattoos, I enjoy pu..
Added 2024-08-29 15:01:12 +0000 UTC• impact •
I like pain. I am covered in tattoos, I enjoy pushing the limits with spicy foods, i love icey plunges, cold showers and occasionally... I enjoy a slap across the face. Not always, but often, people relate these traits to some kind of trauma leading to being this way. While this can be the case, more recent studies published in The Journal of Sex Research have found that other factors were associated with this interest, which included: Power exchange: Participants reported enjoying giving up power and being made to be vulnerable. Where "good" pain could be pleasurable. And an Altered consciousness: Some participants also stated that this dynamic had allowed them to experience an altered mindset of meditative, relaxed consciousness, also referred to as "sub space." This is where I land. The out of body experience of giving up control to someone you've vetted, you trust, and you know respects every aspect of the power exchange and takes their responsibility as your dom very seriously. I am a person who needs to have control over most things, my brain is constantly going and going, it's exhausting. My partner knows the role they take when they take control is a privilege. To be a safe space for me, to learn my body inside and out, my physical cues, emotional cues, respecting safe words and following along with guidelines we discussed before the scenes. I give up my power, and in exchange they harness theirs. The bond that forms while in these scenes is one that most in the community know is very unique and special to each person, and can even build trust outside of the bedroom. I trust her taking the lead and trust that she has our best interest in mind. She trusts me to be able to be able to speak up when my needs need to be met in every day life and not just in between the sheets. So while it may seem vulgar and harsh to an outsider, that impact - and the care that follows after - leaves a lasting impact on the both of us.
